If I had to think of one practice that changed the course of my coaching business this year, it would be truly and deeply implementing the law of attraction, fully.
Ironically, and embarrassingly, I will admit that there was a period of time when I was talking about the law of attraction on my Instagram feed and in my facebook group, and yet I wasn’t always totally committed to practising it myself.
I was one of the many advocates that was fascinated in it, had used it in the past to amazing effect and yet had lost touch with actually living it day to day, yet still spouted it’s amazingness. I was therefore out of integrity and out of alignment…
I was being the dictator, not the role model.
If you resonate with that? Listen up, because this will change everything for you if you let it.
I was so stressed
Always one to believe in the power of investing in your dreams, I had invested so many thousands of pounds in my new business venture at a time when I had no money coming in. I had jumped, leaped and believed.
I had trained and worked hard, hustled and learnt.
And yet I was still making no money in my coaching business.
It was during a module on a programme I was doing at the time on money management that my current reality truly hit home.
I was just one month away from not being able to pay my mortgage, that was solely in my name…AND my monthly outgoings were still sky high, carrying with them the various payment plans to different courses, programmes and coaches.
I was so scared, but more than that, I felt so ashamed.
What had I done? I felt I was failing my family, that I’d risked their security and taken a gamble that wasn’t paying off.
I started looking for stacking shelves jobs locally, being willing to do whatever I needed to just survive.
Luckily at the time, I had an incredible group of high-vibe and successful mentors around me and they brought me out of survival mode, reminded me that coming from a place of fear and lack would likely keep me there, and reconnected me to where I needed to be.
I’d been misunderstanding money mindset and the law of abundance. I’d always been so good at imagining how it would feel to be wealthy, at dreaming big and living ‘as if’. But I’d been missing an essential missing link.
By never looking at the reality of my bank account, by living in denial and not opening my bank statements, wanting to only focus on what I wanted instead I was showing the universe that I couldn’t handle the money I already had. I was asking for more and yet showing that if I had it, I wouldn’t be able to handle it.
I started to realise that there was a difference between worrying about money and focusing on the lack and need, and managing money and being aware of where I was at now as well as where I knew I was going and trusting what was coming in to me.
So I made a commitment. I would show my money more care, and more attention. I would live ‘as if’ in those areas that where it truly was an investment for me, but allow myself to be frugal where it didn’t bring much to my life or serve me that much. I’d know what my subsriptions were and be mindful of where my money went.
I’d look in my bank account every day so that I knew what was happening and I was in control.
I would show money, what a capable and caring custodian of my money I was and that I could totally look after and manage much, much more.
I stopped saying my affirmations whilst boiling the kettle, unconnected and update them, sit down without distraction and truly feel them with all of me.
I got back to my gratitude practice and again, felt the emotion of all that I DID have, stopping focusing on what I didn’t and the fear and lack.
I found the magic spot between responsibility and awareness of the now, and the total trust and expectation of all the success and wonder that was already a done deal and on it’s way to me.
About six weeks later I made £5000 from my first three paying clients, AND got offered a small yet brilliant role in a big Hollywood movie. All in one week. And the momentum has kept up since then.
What could you change up in your practice at the moment that might move the needle for you in a similar way?
Do you find you’re not fully practising what you’re preaching? And what might change for you if you did?
Let me know what one insight you got from this part of my story; I’d love to know.
And remember…it only takes one insight, to change it all!